Personally, we’re thrilled at the following advice from our friend Melanie Davis, a certified sex educator. Today’s message? One simple idea: Buy some good personal lubricant, and pour it out of its rather matter-of-fact container into one of those pretty soap dispenser bottles. Keep it bedside, handy but now well-disguised in case of prying eyes. We know that rummaging in a drawer or searching a cabinet can be a, well, spontaneity-killer. But going without is just a bad idea. “Being well lubricated reduces friction and dryness and just makes sex more enjoyable,” Melanie says. “As we age, our bodies don’t make as much lubrication. As my gynecologist friend says, ‘You’d never leave the house without moisturizer on your hands and face.’ ” You can figure out the rest. Thank you, Melanie, for encouraging a healthy sex life by being sensible and straightforward while acknowledging our occasional awkwardness on the topic.
——Melanie Davis is co-founder of the New Jersey Center for Sexual Wellness.
